Things you don't say...

So, occasionally I work out with two other women at my gym. Well, one of them lost her brother recently after a four year battle with lung cancer. Someone pointed out that my mom died of the same thing, but her death was pretty quick (she was diagnosed in February and passed away by August). You understand that people really don't know what to say and everyone has a different viewpoint on the matter, but NEVER, does it make you feel good when someone's reaction is "Thank God!" Yeah, thank God she's not suffering anymore...but NO! It doesn't make it any easier to accept. Hint, hint, it doesn't make the grieving process any better. We as humans are selfish and want that person here with us. How could she say that to me today? I'm really to try to keep it in perspective that she was just in a crazy place. She doesn't know the battles we fought and the hope that we had. I bought a fun coffee table book called I Like You by Amy Sedaris Hospitality under the Influence. In one section she goes into detail on how to treat grieving friends and family. I'm going to include a few of her suggestions, in case you ever find yourself in that awkward place.

Inappropriate things to say:
1.He's better off now.
2.Only the good die young.
3.Was he drinking?
4.Did she smoke?
5.Where were you when it happened?
6.I know exactly what you are going through...

Some appropriate things to say:
1.My sympathy to you
2.He will be missed.
3.He had a lot of friends
4.She lived a good life.


The woman today managed in a matter of 45 seconds to say at least three of the inappropriate things and zero appropriate and I managed to break down crying in the middle of my workout. What a way to start off the day.